I have this really destructive habit that I’ve been working on for a while….⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When my needs aren’t getting met, I hold it in for a very long time. I hold it in so tight – until I burst. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And let me tell you….the bursting isn’t pretty. It’s messy.
It’s filled with emotional confusion and historical upsets that I’m no longer able to clearly communicate because it’s long been expired. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
For the past 6 years or so I have been working on this and it’s still such a challenge at times…especially at that time of the month when I have a ton more needs that go against the grain of this modern world.
I need more rest.
I need to feel secure.
I need to feel autonomous/freer.
I need to feel connection. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I need a lot. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The truth is we all need a lot. And the majority of us stink at knowing our needs, let alone communicating them.
Having needs is a part of being human. So how the eff did a request for our needs get downloaded into so many of our psyches as being “needy’? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Our social constructions can be so strange ;).
In many ways social conditioning (on top of all the other layers of conditioning) has not set us up for success.
It has not given us permission to be uniquely us and learn from ourselves in the multitude of ways that our higher Self is trying to communicate with us – whether it be through the bodies sensations, clairaudience, clairvoyance, dreams etc….our highest selves are always trying to be in contact.
So we just need to spend time practicing how to bring awareness to it’s voice. Trust it and then communicate it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So although I have had so much resistance in pouring my attention into the processes of effective of communication (because it seemed so boring) I have fully committed to being a better communicator this past while.
I have every intention to enrich my life and really show people the heart of who I am, while also seeing and hearing all of who they are.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
A win/win for all points of contact is my intention. Why? Because this feels damn good. This win/win enriches life and most definitely strengthens the heartbeat of why I know I’m here – connection. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
In my many years of dabbling in effective communication I’ve definitely learned a lot (what I’ve been able to implement is another thing)….
I’ve learned that most forms of connection is anchored in communication.
I’ve learned that connection is more about listening than it is sharing.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
That communication is just as much about receiving as it is speaking. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And that what isn’t said is just as impactful as what is said. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Creating deeper connections is just as much about committing to a process of de-conditioning as it is effective communication.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Creating deeper connections takes digging, healing and showing raw face.⠀⠀⠀⠀
It takes knowing and listening to Self and to trusting that.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
To really getting to know the heart of our very human needs. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When we can’t identify our own needs we’re causing havoc on all points of connection (on the surface or under the skin).⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Our relationship to Self and others suffer from what is not being acknowledged and expressed effectively. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So I’m here now, taking a stand for myself and doing what I can to share the wisdom of my teachers so we can all feel more in connection with ourselves and others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
This Sunday at 10am our Mothers Unite community will be digging into this, so we can unapologetically and intelligently crack our needs way open.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Head here to register for our next circle (or save some a register for the next 3). We’d love to have you! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀